Dr. Tae Yun Kim is a martial artist, author, speaker, CEO of a hi-tech company, and so much more…
In her book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within she writes:
3) Life Examination
This is the third stage of self-discovery. First, in the readiness stage, you made the commitment to change your life; second, in the energizing stage, you began the process of purifying and increasing your energy to ensure that you would create pure and true forms in your life; and now, in this third stage of life examination, you define and prioritize your specific goals so that you have a clear target on your individual path. You take a hard look at your present priorities. As you look at your life you’ll be asking, “What is the meaning of what I’ve created as my life?” Or, “Have I been true to myself? Am I where I want to be? Do I know who I am? Am I being who I am, or am I being who somebody else wants me to be?”
Only by looking closely at where you are can you evaluate the quality of your environment, motives, beliefs and attitudes. You can’t change anything until you identify precisely what needs to be changed. The conditions in your environment and the quality of your thinking have brought you to where you are now. Do you like where you are? If not, where did you compromise or sell out along the way? How did you get off the track? And why? What forces did you respond to instead of listening to the quiet truthful knowing of your Silent Master consciousness? Only by looking honestly at where you are now can you form a good plan to go somewhere else. A careful evaluation will help you see where you detoured, help you determine where you want to go now and plan how you will get there. That is, you will acquire new motives, ideas, and attitudes that will foster a new self-concept and most likely a new environment. As you look at your life, do not underestimate the power of the environment (job, relationships, family, etc.) you are presently in. To what extent is your environment speaking to you more loudly than your own inner desires? Is your environment promoting the awareness of your strengths or is it smothering you? You cannot assume everyone you know, whether a perceived friend or foe, wants you to change in the ways you want to change.
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