Here is an excerpt from Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim‘s book, The Silent Master:
Only by looking closely at where you are can you evaluate the quality of your environment, motives, beliefs and attitudes. You can’t change anything until you identify precisely what needs to be changed. The conditions in your environment and the quality of your thinking have brought you to where you are now. Do you like where you are? If not, where did you compromise or sell out along the way? How did you get off the track? And why? What forces did you respond to instead of listening to the quiet truthful knowing of your Silent Master consciousness? Only by looking honestly at where you are now can you form a good plan to go somewhere else. A careful evaluation will help you see where you detoured, help you determine where you want to go now and plan how you will get there. That is, you will acquire new motives, ideas, and attitudes that will foster a new Self-Concept and most likely a new environment. As you look at your life, do not underestimate the power of the environment (job, relationships, family, etc.) you are presently in. To what extent is your environment speaking to you more loudly than your own inner desires? Is your environment promoting the awareness of your strengths or is it smothering you? You cannot assume everyone you know, whether a perceived friend or foe, wants you to change in the ways you want to change.